Try new things and keep discovering what makes you the wonderfully weird person that you are. If you want to play a sport, join the band, be in a club, go to the movies, hang out with friends, take a trip to visit your family, DO IT. Just like anything else in life, you are learning a lot of things for the first time. Second, it is not your responsibilty to save anyone else. When you fall in love with someone you want to be there for them and make them happy. You don’t want to give up on something or feel like a quitter and you are afraid that saying you deserve better means that you are selfish. Make sure that you have all the information possible about birth control, risks, STDS, etc.
My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. My mother, spying him from the front window, asked me how old he was."I don't know," I said. After awhile, my friend and her boyfriend disappeared, leaving T. Many memories remain fuzzy, but incidents such as that day in the forest remain in crisp detail. It was late and my parents were asleep as we drove over to the house where T. At some point, my friend left to go somewhere, and for whatever reason I didn't go with him. Maybe he only stepped out to go to the store down the block. This was after the night at his house, though how much later I cannot say. It seemed just about every woman I knew had a similar story, a time when wanting attention meant getting the wrong kind entirely. If I could magically go back in time and have a conversation with my 15-year-old-self, these are the 13 things I would make sure that she knew: 1. People will tell you that you’re too young to be in love. And unless you are part of a very small percent of the population, you will be incredibly thankful for this. Figure out what you want in a partner and save the “through sickness and health, till death do us part” until you’re older. The truth is that you either save yourself, or you remain unsaved. I know you think you are supposed to be tough and stick it out through the bad times. Sex also brings with it an incredible amount of stress as a teenager. I know you want to believe that people can change, but in time you will learn that unless someone works hard, often with a professional therapist or counselor, for a long period of time, people only change for time periods and then they fall back into the same habits. Some people stay with their high school sweethearts and get married and have babies and everything’s wonderful, but the truth is that the first person you fall in love with is most likely not the person you want to spend your whole, entire life with. Years from now, you will regret the things you didn’t do, not the times you missed out on something to hang out with a boy (or girl) you probably don’t even talk to anymore. It’s glorified in movies and tv shows and books, but in reality this belief will keep you trapped. The time you waste being unhappy is time you will never get back. If someone pressures you, or forces you to do anything that you are not comfortable with, it is abuse. It is great to support someone you love, but it is not your responsibility to save your boyfriend or girlfriend from their problems. and make a decision about whether you are ready to have sex you are in the heat of the moment. When people show you who they really are, believe them the first time. Never give it up, because without it, you’re a bore. If you are Billy Ray Cyrus not only do you give your daughter your blessing on the relationship, but you also pat yourself on the back for setting her up.